Kim Robinson and coronavirus

My friendship and collaboration with Kim Robinson goes back years. She displays several of my recipes on her website, such as ANZAC biscuits.


Her current project is to get people to say how the pandemic has affected them. She twisted my arm, and I came up with this:

I am fortunate to be living in Australia, where COVID is well controlled. Deaths have been very few, and vigorous isolation and contact tracing quickly strangles any community transmission. So, occasionally, for days, weeks, and at first months at a time, there have been lockdowns. We wear masks, and keep our distance.

So what.

Also, having retired 5 times so far, I can do almost all my important activities from my recliner chair, over the internet. Since the start of the pandemic, I have attended perhaps twice as many meetings as previously, because I don’t need to go anywhere.

Being a party pooper, I am actually grateful I have been able to avoid the usual obligatory social gatherings. For some lucky people, conversation is lubrication. They can talk about anything (or even nothing). For others, conversation is information. I am in this second group: if I have nothing to say, I say nothing. For us loners, lockdown is as much a liberation as a restriction.

However, COVID has bitten me in the bum another way: compassion for the suffering of other people twists me like a lemon. I need to use my therapeutic tools on myself to stop the second-hand angst. They are not always successful, then I simply accept that, and know “all things shall pass.” Then I can cheerfully endure being miserable.


You can read about the tools I use at my blog, Bobbing Around, or in my book, From Depression to Contentment: A self-therapy guide.

About Dr Bob Rich

I am a professional grandfather. My main motivation is to transform society to create a sustainable world in which my grandchildren and their grandchildren in perpetuity can have a life, and a life worth living. This means reversing environmental idiocy that's now threatening us with extinction, and replacing culture of greed and conflict with one of compassion and cooperation.
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3 Responses to Kim Robinson and coronavirus

  1. fionamcgier says:

    How has the pandemic affected me? Family is my life. The week before the state of Illinois shut down in the USA, we were out in MIchigan visiting our second son who was turning 30. He wanted a bowling party, and we took his 2 1/2 year old son (our first grandbaby!) so he could share his daddy’s hobby and learn how to bowl (kiddie-style, with bumpers on both sides and a stand for him to set the ball on so it rolled down). My DIL stayed at home with their infant son. The next day we went out to breakfast, and rules were in place–plastic utensils, no condiments on the table, etc. Then on Monday, life closed down. The high schools I sub in closed–only to be reopening last month, after a year. So I’ve been unemployed for a year. Husband has converted one of the kids’ old bedrooms into an office and he works from home–so at least we can pay the bills. But other than the occasional camping trip where we all wore masks (that I made for everyone, since I sew), I haven’t seen my kids much. The DIL’s mother passed away in April from Co-Vid complications, and we weren’t able to support her by being there–or my usual, delivering a meal and pie. I only held my second grandson twice, when he was a baby, and he’s an active toddler now, so will have no interest in having his gramma hold him. We missed our Thanksgiving together, Christmas and New Year’s together, and birthday celebrations have been muted and on Zoom. I want to hug my children and my grandchildren! I will keep wearing masks as long as it takes–maybe I’ll keep using them for the cold-flu season forever, since they’re so effective. But I’m a social person and a hugger–this has been rough on me. I haven’t seen my close girlfriends for a year, and we usually have dinner/lunch a few times a year. I’m an extrovert and I’m suffering.

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    • Dr Bob Rich says:

      Fiona, here is a virtual hug for you all the way from Australia. I’ll suggest to Kim that she reproduces your contribution here, if you agree.
      🙂
      Bob

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      • fionamcgier says:

        That’s fine with me. I feel like a whiny, privileged baby, since others have it so much worse. But you did ask how it was affecting us, personally. Since I’m going back on the sub list, I’m getting my second shot tomorrow–my DIL(works with the elderly) and my teacher-daughter have already had theirs.I worry about my husband, with multiple health issues, and my oldest boy, with type 1 diabetes. They need to get their shots ASAP–but not available for them yet. Then my other two sons are last in line, I guess. I just read that mental health experts are telling us to be gentle with each other. Many will be anxious as the 1st anniversary of the world shutting down approaches. I”m staying in close contact with my children, hoping we can comfort each other.

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