Forgiveness

Rhobin Courtright asked her faithful bunch of bloggers to “write a short story, flash fiction, or use an excerpt from one of your books.” So, here is a chapter from my current work, Lifting the Gloom.

Matthew Trotter stared at the handcuffed man in the dock — the murderer of his wife and daughter. Trodg stood nearly seven feet tall, with a broad, powerful body. He was one of Matt’s caseload, so he knew the man’s distorted face was the result of repeated battering from an alcoholic father, until at 14 Trodg had killed him. The court had ruled self-defense, back then.

Until the murder of Claire and Tiffany two months ago, Matt had prided himself on love, tolerance and compassion for all, but now, now he wished New York still had the death penalty. For the past eight weeks, he’d woken from dreams in which he incinerated Trodg with a flame thrower, or caused a rockfall to bury him in a deep canyon, or pushed him under the surface of a cesspit with a long pole. Each dream was different, like tripping Trodg so he fell into a shark-filled pool, or knocking him down with a big truck then backing the truck over his body again, or seeing him fall from the stern of a ship, and being cut up by the propellers.

Claire and Tiffany — only seven years old — had been Matt’s haven from hell, his life support, his home base. Claire had often said with a laugh, “If I wasn’t here to look after you, you’d starve to death!” Sure enough, Matt had lost maybe thirty pounds since she was gone.

In the dock, standing between two armed guards, Trodg said, “Your Honor, yeah, I plead guilty, but…”

The judge broke the silence: “But what, Mr. Carmichael?” Matt had known Trodg’s real name, Peter Carmichael, from the case notes, but for all the street people, now eagerly following the case, it was a surprise he even had a regular name.

Trodg looked up at the judge. “Uh, your Honor, I, uh, bought some stuff I thought was heroin but they put something else in it, and I went off me head. I didn’t know what I was doing.”

“Mr. Carmichael,” the judge grated in a voice like a razor, “You will now have a life sentence without parole. More than enough time to get off your addictions. You murdered nine people in the bank, including two little children, then the security guard as you fled. No one forced you to be off your head, as you expressed it.”

Were tears glistening on the fellow’s ravaged face? “Your Honor, the social worker what looks after me on the streets has said, like, you cannot judge someone without walking in their moccasins for a hundred days. If you lived me life…”

Matt was that social worker. He had indeed said that to his clients, often.

The judge looked at him. “Mr. Trotter, please take the witness stand. I know this is highly unusual at an arraignment, but I want to hear your opinion.”

Matt went to the stand, and was sworn in. He stated his position as Social Worker, New York City Department of Homeless Services, then gave a brief summary of his interactions with the Accused over the past six years. All this time, he did all he could to force the hate down, to keep to a professional demeanor.

The Prosecutor stood. “Two questions, Mr. Trotter. Did you know that the Accused possessed an assault rifle?”

“No, sir. He has no fixed abode. I’ve never seen him with a weapon, and given his powerful build and reputation as a fighter, I thought him safe from assault, so why would he need one? But I’m aware of a police report that his drug dealer had provided him with the weapon. And also, I know that wretched man died in a mysterious explosion when the police knocked on his door to arrest him.”

“Here is my second question. What can you tell us about his drug use?”

Matt had to sigh. “Sir, I’ve had him in rehab four times. As soon as he is out, he relapses. I’ve organized free counseling for him, but he has refused to engage in the activities known to help with processing all the many traumas of his life.”

The judge asked, “As an expert witness, do you see any reason he should not suffer a life sentence without parole?”

Matt wanted to shout “NO! If he cannot be executed, he should be locked away forever!” Instead, with every appearance of calmness, he said what he would for any other client, “Your Honor, I’m involved in the drug detoxification program at Rikers Island. I offer to continue as his case manager, and recommend his parole conditions be reviewed subject to a report from me, after a time set by the court.”

“Very well. The court is adjourned.” The judge stood, everyone standing for him. He walked out.

As he exited the courtroom, Matt ran the gauntlet of the press without responding to any of their questions, and hurried out of the building.

Now what?

He had no home to go to, only an empty, cheerless apartment. He went there anyway, then phoned his twin brother in Australia, his only lifeline. Mike had told him to call, anytime.

“G’day, bro,” Mike said. “I’m having breakfast, so you didn’t get me out of bed.”

“I’ve just come from the arraignment.”

A silence followed, one of support and peace. It was as if Mike was sending soothing love over the airwaves. At last, Matt said, “I’ve offered to continue as the bastard’s case manager in jail.”

“You would. Reckon you can?”

“No. I want to kill him, slowly and with great pain. But…”

“Yeah. Matt, there once was a fellow called Siddhartha Gautama.”

“Sure. The Buddha.”

“He said something like, anger is a hot coal you pick up to throw at someone, but—”

Matt well knew that quote, having often used it in his work, so cut Mike off: “But it’s your hand that gets burned. Sure thing, it’s burning the hell out of me.” Mike knew all about his nightmares.

“OK, fella, short of killing the bloke, what would give you the most satisfaction in this terrible situation?”

Again, neither of them spoke. At last, Matt sighed. “What I offered in court. Get him off drugs. Help him to process his trauma. He now owes me, and he knows it, so this time I’m sure he’ll comply. Then coach him to catch up on his basic education, maybe learn a trade, and argue to have him on parole in 15 years. That’s the minimum if he is convicted of second degree murder.”

“Right. Matt, close your eyes. Breathe deep. Imagine, it’s, I don’t know, three years from now. You regularly visit this man in jail. He is sane, steady, remorseful, and thinks of you as his best friend.”

Again, Matt felt enveloped in a golden cloud of love from his brother. The red fog of hate lifted. “Thanks, mate. You better get on with your day. Speak to you again.”

“Any time you need me, I’m here for you.”

It probably won’t last, Matt thought as he disconnected. But, as I say to my clients, for now, for this moment, I am cured of hate. And Trodg, poor bastard, has no one else.

What can Matt and Mike teach us?

Like Jarro, these twin brothers are also characters from my Doom Healer series. The two short stories are not in any of the books, but are “backstory” for them, revealed here for the first time.

When you have the opportunity to read the series, you’ll learn that Earth has been home to an Invader, whose task is to destroy all life on this planet, with as much hate and misery as possible. His soldiers, who do the work, have an internal bomb that explodes in certain situations. You know, like the drug dealer who poisoned Trodg’s brain, then equipped him with an assault rifle?

The other thing from the overall story is that soothing, peace-inducing love Matt experienced while talking with his twin. Mike had sent him a blast of metta.

Many people have this intuitive skill. I have used it often, while working as a psychotherapist, and in my private life. Little babies almost always smile at me (I tell their parents that all kids laugh at me because I look funny). When I manage to have peace in my heart (not always!), people spontaneously smile at me, feel good in my company even if I say nothing, do nothing. I merely project that I want to be of benefit.

Try it yourself. Read what Bill Sutcliffe has said on that webpage, and put it into practice. It’s a skill anyone can learn.

Both Matt and Mike are tremendously effective metta broadcasters, much better at it than I am.

But let’s get back to forgiveness. A few times a week, I include this statement in my nightly meditation:

When you do this with full intention, honestly meaning it, and focus in on specific instances that come to mind, you will experience inner peace.

Matt Trotter actually did end up as Trodg’s mentor, guide and best friend, and reformed the man. This is NOT a necessary part of forgiveness, and is beyond most of us. I cannot tell how I would react in his situation, but suspect that I am not a mature enough soul to have been able to befriend and support Trodg.

The inner peace is from letting go of hate, resentment, feeling victimized, not from any effect on the other person. Here is another snippet to show what I mean…

Tyrone joins Bill’s team

This is from the third volume of the Doom Healer. Tyrone, a teenager, is in jail for attempting to kill Clarissa’s husband, who was impersonating Bill Sutcliffe at the time (never mind the reason). Tyrone thought he was earning his fee, killing Bill. Clarissa has visited him weekly since, and has been leading him toward spiritual growth. Here is his critical point of advance…

“Yeah, well, I wouldn’t believe you if it wasn’t for all this Ability stuff. Nowadays, I can’t not believe anything.”

“Tyrone, you can learn to do all that yourself. I was once an assassin, and I came around. If I could do it, you can do it.”

“I’ve been told. Only through Bill. He is the way. But how the fuck… oh, excuse me.”

“All right, kid. Who is the person you hate the most in all the world?”

“I’ve told you many times.”

“Tell me again.”

“Colin fuck’n Moore, the bastard what fucked me up my ass for half my life, until he killed my mother.” Tears coursed down his dark face, and every rigid line of his body spoke of fury.

Before qualifying to join Bill’s team, when she’d been killer Cassandra not loving Clarissa, she used to feel contempt for black people. Now, she could use an endearment from the heart. “My dear, you can get through this. I’ve said it before, too. You don’t need to excuse his behavior. You don’t ever need to go within a mile of him. But you can join our team on the day when, within your heart, you can forgive him, and feel sorry for him rather than angry.”

“Yeah. I’d do it if I could, but how?”

“Wait a moment.” This was the most positive response so far, a big advance. She used the team phone by subvocalizing. “Oscar?”

Within seconds, Bishop Oscar Cardinger answered, also through the team phone, in her left ear, “Clarissa, I’m at your service.”

“That young man I’m mentoring is ready. I’d like to lead him to empathy for his stepfather, who murdered his mother, and sexually abused him during his childhood. How do we do it?”

“Do you have a name for the stepfather?”

“Colin Moore. He is also serving a sentence, but the two have been kept very carefully separate.”

“You’re visiting the boy in jail, are you?”

“Yes.”

“Ten minutes.”

She looked at Tyrone. “Someone is coming to help us within ten minutes. I don’t know how yet, but I trust the man I talked with.”

“How do you folk do that? You look up at the ceiling, and say nothin’, and it’s a conversation.”

“With a bit of luck, you’ll know today. Now, would you like a cup of coffee?”

“Sure.”

She knew his taste by now, after over five months of weekly visits. She asked for a fifteen-person group buzz, and translocated the two cups of coffee she’d prepared at home, before coming. They’d barely emptied their cups when the door behind Tyrone opened, and a guard came in. He was one of her friends, after all this time. “So, our boy is ready?” he asked in Clarissa’s left ear.

“Hi, Joe,” Clarissa said aloud. Has Oscar briefed you?”

A white grin split Joe’s dark brown face. “Yeah. Tyrone my boy, you ready to step up and join Bill’s team?”

“If I could, but…”

Joe called for a fifty-person group buzz, and Clarissa enthusiastically sent him all her metta.

The man said, “Son, I’m gonna make a copy. It’s not a real person, but sure will look like it.”

Another black man stood beside Clarissa, on the right. He was mid-forties, powerfully built, but somewhat overweight. Naturally, the illusion lacked an aura, but was otherwise completely realistic.

Tyrone was on his feet, hands forming fists, and Clarissa was sure he’d have attacked, except for the barrier.

“Wait, Tyrone!” she said. “This is a copy Joe made, an illusion. It’s a tool for your use.”

Joe calmly said, “Son, quiet down like the lovely lady says. Now I’m gonna give you some memories. They’re not your memories, but that guy’s there. It’s Colin’s childhood you’ll remember.”

Clarissa increased her power for Joe, and watched.

At first, Tyrone looked even more furious. His breathing was fast and shallow, his face a ferocious grimace. Then, slowly, his fists uncurled, and he flopped back into his chair. Tears cascaded down his cheeks. Compassion replaced fury in his aura. “Oh fuck,” he said, “the poor bastard.”

“Thank you,” Joe said through the phone, and Clarissa stopped giving him her metta. “Son, now you can feel sorry for him. But what happened to him as a kid doesn’t excuse what he did to you as a kid. He had choices. He could’ve chosen to do the opposite, to be a good father to make up for his childhood. So, we don’t excuse him. But we can forgive him.”

Clarissa said, “Tyrone, listen. Joe made a copy of Colin. Now, I’d like you to make a copy of your mother. If your forgiveness for Colin is for real, then you’ll be able to do it. Just look at my left side. Imagine how she looked when she was happy, at the best time in her life. When you’re ready, know with full certainty that a copy of her is there.” In turn, she called for a thirty-person buzz, and felt both Joe and Oscar join in. She thought, HE CAN DO IT, and blasted all this metta at the boy.

The woman appearing beside Clarissa was perhaps twenty-five years old, fit and strong-looking, with a smile on her brown face.

“Mom!” Tyrone whispered. “That’s what she was like when I was a knee biter. Before that bas… before poor bloody Colin came along.”

“Thank you,” Clarissa subvocalized, and felt the group buzz stop.

Joe said, “Tyrone, this is only the start. You’re gonna slip back, time and again, but we’re all here to help you. When you slip back, you won’t be able to do stuff like creating an illusion. When you return to being able to give metta to all, the Ability will come back. So, son, work hard at it.”

The Colin illusion disappeared.

Oh, “the Ability” is also a natural human skill. Perhaps 30% of people can intuitively do things that change reality. For example, they can be given a sugar pill and get better as if they’d received a medicine: the “placebo effect.” You can read several other indicators.


As you see, forgiveness is very powerful. The other person need never find out about it. You need not excuse or justify the hurtful behavior. You need never contact them again. It is your inner pain that goes.


Please let me know what you think of this chapter, then check out the offerings of my fellow bloggers:

Anne Stenhouse
Beverley Bateman
Connie Vines
Diane Bator
Fiona McGier
Helena Fairfax
Margaret Fieland
Rhobin L Courtright
Victoria Chatham

About Dr Bob Rich

I am a professional grandfather. My main motivation is to transform society to create a sustainable world in which my grandchildren and their grandchildren in perpetuity can have a life, and a life worth living. This means reversing environmental idiocy that's now threatening us with extinction, and replacing culture of greed and conflict with one of compassion and cooperation.
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16 Responses to Forgiveness

  1. Rhobin says:

    I am guilty of holding a grudge, and Iooking back I know it caused me more grief than the person who causes it. I have learned it is more beneficial to me to try and understand causes before condemning actions. Good stories with strong messages, Bob.

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  2. Thanks for this timely message, Bob. I love the quote about anger being a hot coal that burns the hand that throws it. It’s hard to let go of old grudges. Thanks for the reminder that now is the season to try and let go. Wishing you and yours a peaceful Christmas x

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  3. fionamcgier says:

    I’ve often said that my mom and her sisters knew how to hold a grudge for so long, they nurtured it like a prized orchid and enjoyed watching it flower over and over again. From that I learned how NOT to live. So I guess it had a purpose, at least for me–though it made all of them miserable. Life’s lessons come from many places. Enjoyed your pieces.

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    • Dr Bob Rich says:

      I agree, Fiona. My uncle had two purposes in life: to make as much money as possible, never mind who got trampled in the way, and to seduce as many women as possible. So, he was my teacher. Thanks to him, I have been a faithful husband, and know that money can cost more than it is worth.

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  4. J.Q. Rose says:

    Forgiveness is hard–for the one who asks for forgiveness and for the one who gives it. So freeing when one forgives, but it takes a lot of soul searching. Powerful story. The characters reveal so much about themselves through dialog. Thanks for this thought-provoking piece.
    JQ Rose

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    • Dr Bob Rich says:

      And thank you for commenting, Janet.
      You’re right: it can be one of the most difficult things to do. The worst is, “I’ll forgive you if you apologise first. Admit you’re wrong, and I’ll forgive you.” I’ve seen a lot of this attitude, and it is completely destructive.

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  5. okwriter says:

    You’ve done it again, created a story that is deep and multilayered, causes us to think about our own beliefs and where society is and where it’s going. Thanks Bob.
    Beverley

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  6. Victoria Chatham says:

    Becoming a Reiki master taught me so much about love and peace and how to project it. Yoga and meditation brought it all together. Your writing offers powerful support of everything I have come to know and believe.

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  7. Margaret Fieland says:

    I don’t know much about buddhism, but this strikes me as something in line with it. Definitely something to strive towards.

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    • Dr Bob Rich says:

      I think if you asked Matt and Mike what their religion was, they’d say “Sort of Christian, I suppose. Clarissa hated religion, because her stepfather was a great bible basher yet sexually abused her.
      But you are right. Buddhism has the same messages as Jesus’s, just presented for a different culture.

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  8. Skye Taylor says:

    I love that nightly meditation and plan to add it to my own prayer each night. Thank you for the lesson in the healing power of forgiveness.

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