There is both a lot of discrimination against trans people, and also a lot of political correctness, meaning that people keep their prejudices hidden.
My attitude is shaped by my general belief system. (Surprise!)
First, “Above all, do no harm.”
If an adult chooses to cross-dress, changes the name to one more usual for the other sex, and perhaps undergoes medical procedures to change the body, the question is, does this harm anyone else?
In most situations, it doesn’t. Where it results in conflict with people who love the person, then my attitude is that their unhappiness, discomfort, possibly feelings of guilt and shame, need to be worked through. I once had a middle-aged male client who wore female underclothes in secret for years — until his mother died. Then he “came out.” I think his decision was morally correct.
Second, your body is your body; your financial resources are yours to use as you wish (with due regard to partners and dependants). Others have no right to abuse you, attempt to control you, discriminate against you in obvious and subtle ways, because of your personal choices. This applies to sex change at any level from cross-dressing to body transformation, as much as it applies to religion, skin colour, or any other aspect.
My third point, though, is deeper. It is a consequence of my understanding of reality. One of my clichés is: “I don’t believe anything. I assess the available evidence, and use it to construct a model of reality. When new evidence comes in, I may modify the model.”
After decades of modifying my model, I have arrived at an evidence-supported view that life is not an accident. We are integral, essential parts of the Universe. That Universe is a living being: “Life Energy.” It is growing; perhaps it is a young Person. So, it needs to develop lots of thinking components, the equivalent of brain neurones in animals. Earth is a nursery for components that will eventually graduate as such brain cells, perhaps directly, perhaps through a number of other levels.
This entire physical universe with its matter, energy, distance, time is there because the Life Energy observes it. The purpose is to provide trillions of schools for souls, Earth being only one of them. We are all students, moving through a learning process that eventually allows us to graduate. The criterion is when we intuitively, automatically give to all living beings the Love St Paul described in Corinthians 13, what I prefer to call by the Buddhist term, metta. I’ve said it before: whether we know it or not, every sentient being on this planet is an apprentice Buddha, an apprentice Jesus.
This may need thousands of lifetimes of advancing, back-slipping, causing harm and atoning for it, but growing overall. That’s why I called one of my novels Ascending Spiral.
The evidence available to me indicates that after death, we face a Superior Person, Who is probably a graduated soul. That person guides us to evaluate the just-finished life, without judgment, and with infinite metta. This is strong motivation for building on our strengths, making restitution for harm we have caused, setting up the next Lessons our Spirit is ready for.
OK, back to trans people. No one but the person involved can ever know someone’s chosen Lessons. But two possibilities have occurred to me:
1. This spirit has so far always been the one sex, and has chosen to explore being the other. But, once born, that body feels strange, and foreign, and alien. So, there is a strong temptation to revert to the sex that is comfortable from past lives, negating the chosen Lesson.
2. In fact, being in the “wrong” body and having the power reverse it may be the chosen Lesson.
Who can tell?