Thoughts on Christmas

Other posts of mine in Rhobin’s Round Robin:

What matters in today’s world?

Things that go bump in the night

One of my angels

Rhobin Courtright’s topic for December is: During the sometimes hectic holidays do you find it hard to find writing time? If not, how do you handle it with the expectations of others to visit and share time together? Or do you appreciate taking a vacation from fiction to enjoy time with family and friends?

I am not even a square peg in a round hole, but a fractal-shaped peg that makes its own hole. I do my best to completely ignore the holiday period. Every day is a holiday for me, and every day a working day. So, instead, I’ll write about the topic I would have set.

There is a contest for a FREE GIFT. The person who gives the best version of the topic I am writing for can choose one of my books, free.

Gary Clough won the prize, with his tongue-in-the cheek suggestion, “Why do you love Christmas?” His chosen book is Bizarre Bipeds: What IS humanity’s role in the universe?.

My rave on Christmas

If you are a Christian, Christmas should be nothing more and nothing less than a holy day, a day for celebrating the birth of Christ. It should be a day for remembering His message, and renewing your commitment to it. This message is Love, what my friend Bill Sutcliffe prefers to call by the Buddhist term metta. It is love, not only for those you find easy to care for, but love for your neighbour, and even for your enemy.

If you are not a Christian, Christmas should be like Chinese New Year to a Swede, or Hanukah for a Buddhist. It is simply someone else’s religious festivity.

Unfortunately, Christmas is nothing like it should be, which is the reason this is the time of year I want to go off-planet.

Christmas is hypocrisy When I worked in nursing homes, I used to be REALLY upset by those loving relatives who came bearing useless gifts and false smiles around Christmas, and then didn’t show until a year later. Similar are the family gatherings where long-established enemies will hopefully manage not to have a slanging match; the superficial good wishes with no meaning behind them; the sentiment that’s expressed all so sincerely but ignored for the rest of the year.

Christmas is obligation “Oh, what will I give Joe?” “How much should I spend on Sally’s present?” People give presents to each other, not from a spirit of love or generosity or even caring, but because they will commit a social blunder if they don’t. This includes the meaningless and useless barrage of Christmas cards that choke up the mail.

Christmas is commercialism One large shopping centre announced that it was swamped during its night hours at Christmas Eve. Everybody had to be there for that last-minute shopping. We have been encouraged — brainwashed — into spending more and more on less and less, and Christmas is the time for spurious specials that painlessly remove money from your bank account.

Christmas is indulgence It is when diets and promises of abstinence are forgotten, when people get drunk and eat too much, all of the wrong foods.

Christmas is sorrow Those who are isolated will hurt all the more when they think that everyone else is enjoying family. Those who have lost someone will miss them with a special poignancy at this time.

For people like that, the holiday period is the worst time of the year.

There was a time in my life, now thankfully long in my past, when I was terribly lonely and isolated. I felt unloved and unlovable, felt that, should I die, there would be no one to miss me. One popular weekly radio program of the time had a theme song with the words ‘Everybody loves Saturday night.’ Well, during the week I could be busy and so distract myself from my misery. Weekends were the worst times, and this song hurt. I certainly didn’t love my lonely Saturday nights!

The world is full of people like I was: isolated, self-hating, desperate to belong, but for some reason unable to take the actions to bring them in contact with others. For them, Christmas is often my ‘Saturday night’, multiplied by a thousand.

Maybe, this Christmas you could find a person like that, and extend a hand of friendship?

Christmas can also be a time of pain for those who have lost a loved one, perhaps years ago. A dead person who used to have a very special role to play during Christmas will be missed with extra poignancy during the supposedly festive season. You may be over the worst of your grief — most of the time — but during Christmas it will bite you anew with a special fierceness.

If you are in this sad situation, prepare for it. Be aware that Christmas will hurt, and instead of doing the usual, devote a significant amount of time and effort into remembering all the good things, celebrating your life with the person you miss, whom you can welcome back into your life.

As you may have gathered, if I could, I’d ban Christmas. I would like every day of the year to be Christmas, in the real meaning: a time for implementing the message of Jesus. But I would like to get rid of all the rest of the nonsense.

Other blogs in Rhobin’s Round:
Connie Vines
Skye Taylor
Anne Stenhouse
A.J. Maguire
Hollie Glover
Rachael Kosinski
Rhobin Courtright
Marci Baun
Diane Bator
Beverley Bateman

About Dr Bob Rich

I am a professional grandfather. My main motivation is to transform society to create a sustainable world in which my grandchildren and their grandchildren in perpetuity can have a life, and a life worth living. This means reversing environmental idiocy that's now threatening us with extinction, and replacing culture of greed and conflict with one of compassion and cooperation.
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4 Responses to Thoughts on Christmas

  1. okwriter says:

    An interesting post and a different take on Christmas. I do agree with what you have said. I posted on my blog a week or so ago, about the commercialism of Christmas, but you said it much better. And I agree it can be a very sad time for many. However, I also believe that for some us, the gift is often small and maybe home made, or I my case, a gift to a charity in the name of the person. And I love the old familiar carols.

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    • Dr Bob Rich says:

      Yes, the custom of asking people to give to a specified charity or cause instead of Christmas, birthday, wedding etc. gifts is excellent.
      Anything that replaces greed with compassion goes in the right direction.
      Thanks for posting, Beverley.


  2. Rhobin says:

    Bob, in some ways I completely agree with your assessment. Just this morning I was thinking and wondering if humans aren’t their own worst calamity. We are constantly barraged by a depravity that never seems to end. And I have certainly felt some of the emotions and had the responses you describe, and just as certainly embodied some of the worst parts of those descriptions. So I changed my personal concept of Christmas. It is a time for me to give part of myself to those I love and to those I like and those I respect for their contributions. The gifts I give are not all Christmas gifts, some are spontaneous, and most often are made by me. Those few gifts I buy are because I know they will give the person (usually a grandchild) receiving them pleasure. Thanks for the introspective post.

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    • Dr Bob Rich says:

      Robin, I’m glad we agree on this. I think you’d like the Dutch custom. For them, Christmas is a strictly religious occasion. Present-giving is on the 5th of December, St Nicholas’ birthday. All presents come from St Nic, and you may or may not be able to guess who his helper was. Hand-made is preferred to bought, with some thought given to it. Funny little poems are a bonus.


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